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| Sample First Contact Calls |
Making first contact calls:
My name is Pam and I am a Search Angel. I am trying to locate a Mrs Sarah Jones whose maiden name is Smith. If they say I have the right one I then tell them the one I am looking for was in Houston TX in 1969. I will also get them to verify things that are in the non id if I have it so I am sure that I have the right one before they know why I am calling. If they still say yes then I ask if the date XX/XX/XXXX means anything to them. If they say yes I ask what it means. If they say no I ask them if they gave birth to a child on that date in Houston TX. Usually they say yes and things are great. If they say no I re verify all the non id with them and then tell them to please take down my name and number in case they decide they need to reach me. I also assure them that I will be there to answer questions and help them with whatever I can until everyone is comfortable and they don't need me anymore. The important things is to get them to verify everything BEFORE they catch onto the reason for my call. Then I KNOW I have the right person even if they deny. I hope this helps. It has helped me through over 700 calls
Pam bouncinghound@aol.com |
Contact calls are all different , it depends on the circumstances surrounding the adoption. As a general rule I suggest that the adoptee/birthparent allow a search angel to make the initial contact for them. First contact can make or break a relationship. Sometimes if there's a third party involved, the adoptee/birthmother doesn't feel so threatened. It gives them the opportunity of deciding whether or not they want contact. Of course there are times when it's to the advantage of the adoptee/birthparent to make contact themselves.
For instance we've just completed a search where the adoptee remembered the name of someone who used to babysit his children. It turned out that his birthmother had actually been the babysitter. And he had even been classmates and good friends with his own brother. Therefore we thought it best if he made contact with her because we thought that the birthmother would be a little more receptive to him.
This is a contact call for a birthmother/birthfamily looking for an adoptee:
Hello,
My name is "your name" and I'd like to speak with "the adoptee's amended name" (When making a contact call DO NOT speak with anyone else except the person whom you're searching for). I am looking for an adoptee who was born "XX/XX/XXXX" in "hospital name" in "city, state". Does any of this sound familiar to you? If so , and after verification of information is made then tell them that you believe they are the adoptee you're looking for. Speak from the heart and the words will flow. If they deny it even though you know that they are the person you've been looking for, leave a name and number that they can contact you with when they feel more comfortable.
This is a contact call for an adoptee searching for a birthparent/birthfamily . I actually had an adoptee who made contact with her birthmother herself, and it worked rather well for her.
Hello,
My name is "your name" and I was born on "XX/XX/XXXX" at "name of hospital" in "city/state". Ask if that information means anything to them. If they tell you that they had a son/daughter on that date, say "I believe I may be that son/daughter" or you believe that they're the person that you've been searching for.
If they deny it leave your name and phone number in case they do decide they want contact.
It's imperative that you leave a name and number with them. I had a search where I called the birthmom. She told me that she wanted nothing to do with the adoptee, that it was a particularly stressful time in her life and she just wanted to leave it in the past.
So I left her my name and number and that of the adoptee. Not a half an hour later I got a phone call from the adoptee telling me that her birthmother had called her.
If you get a message machine simply indentify yourself , and say that you need to speak with them. Would they please call you back at "you're phone number". Assure them that you're not a solicitor or bill collector. Then recite your phone number again and tell them that they may call you collect.
However you choose to do it I wish you all the best.
Jan janet.sousa@verizon.net |
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